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Living Proof Praying Women Embarks on another Women Empowerment Scheme

It was a splendid time out with the Living proof praying women international. The skill acquisition program organized by the praying women was a big success.

Today the women were taught how to make beautiful designs on throw pillows and how to make simple throw pillows which can be sold and also used to beautify the home. There were talks on how to make simple gardens around our homes with gadgets that were no longer useful around us.

Talks on packaging of products, time management and a brief season on how to rear cat fish. What an interesting day in the presence of the Lord. Today’s venue was at RCCG great Grace parish, Garki 2, Abuja.

Thanks to all the resources persons and a big thank you to Pst Julie Onovwiona and team for this wonderful initiative of empowering the women. More grace ma’am. We were really blessed.

Living Proof Praying Women Int’l Empowers Women in Abuja

It was an awesome moment in Gods presence as women gather together both to seek Gods face and to be actively and productively empowered.
Sanni Funmilayo Joy was the resource person for How to make and market throw pillows.
No item is a waste was a session handled by Queen Diete- Spiff.
Perfumery was taken care of by fragrance bar represented by HAjia Halima Bagudu.
Poultry was taught by Mrs. Bristle while
Agricultural services was handled by Green Nations.
It was indeed an unforgettable moment for all participants.


It was an important moment for the founding members of Living Proof Praying Women International as they met both to pray and fashion out better ways to make the divine assignment more soul reaching. These are “MOTHERS IN ISRAEL” with several years of experience in counseling on marital related issues and other areas of life.

With the undying passion to impact homes and the younger generation, they converged at the residence of the convener, Living Proof Praying Women International who also took time to ensure everyone is well entertained with nourishment for the body.

This should raise the bars of hope for all participants and intending participants of the programme Living Proof Praying Women International has come to stay for good. With the combo of sound biblical teachings, counseling and prayers; every challenge in your home or life will be dealt with.


True love will wait…but after that what’s next? At a younger age, many Christian women do pledge to remain undefiled before marriage but the rhetoric falls short as they enter adulthood and encounter more serious romantic relationships.

Bombarded with videos and pictures of Nollywood, Bollywood and Hollywood’s kind of romance, women facing real-world temptation may be wondering what they’re missing and if the wait is really worth it.

Pastor Mrs. Julie has been there. She struggled with the same temptations, the same questions, the same challenges. Now she wants to share what she learned. Emphasizing that women are cherished by God and their purity is worth fighting for; Pastor Mrs. Julie offers much-needed advice on triumphing over the sexual pitfalls of dating, romance and sex before marriage.

Join us on Saturday 7th October, 2017 for a one day prayer conference tagged “A NEW IDENTITY”
TIME: 12 noon


That you have kids as a single mother is not a reason to live a life without purpose. I see lots of single mothers who fell into despair just because of this. You and your kid(s) can flourish, live happily even as a single mother. There are lots of examples of people raised by single mothers and are fulfilled today. That they made it could be an inspiration for you to make it. DON’T GIVE UP ON THE SITUATION. Some of the people on my list include:

1. President Obama
He was raised by his single mom and grandparents. Obama said in a televised speech. “My father left my family when I was 2 years old, and I was raised by a single mom who had to work and who struggled at times to pay the bills and wasn’t always able to give us the things that other kids had.” Today, the story is different.

2. President Clinton
He was brought up primarily by his mom and actress Bridget Moynahan, who went through her pregnancy alone after splitting from Patriots quarterback Tom Brady.
There are so many others brought up by a single mum but today are doing just fine. All these are proofs that single motherhood is not just manageable, but also an incredible gift that allows you to shape your child into a wonderful human being. The challenges will come, stand tall and firm, you will come out glorious.

For more and individualized counseling session, join us at Living Proof Praying Women Int’l, 1st Saturday of every month.
Time: 11am
Venue: Bible Guest House, Beside NYSC Secretariat, Wuse Zone 5, Along Ibru Hotel, Abuja


My husband is the quiet – gentleman type and an introvert to an extent, which didn’t go well with me at the time. For thirty years we have been together, I did try several times to change certain things I didn’t like about him. The more I tried, the more I failed and most times results to one issue or the other.

Ofcourse, as in every relationship or rather marriage, there are absolutely things, issues or challenges only the God who joined you both have the absolute right and privilege to treat or handle. Don’t force your personality traits on your spouse.

God in His infinite wisdom NEVER makes a mistake. If you an extrovert and He give you an introvert, there is a sweet purpose to that. It is for both of you to search it out and make it work.
Do you know that, as bad as the things I had wanted to see my husband change from, I have over a thousand reason to thank God for marrying him.

Curled from my book – CATEGORIES OF WIVES .For more of this, visit or call 08031328802 for a copy of the book.


What is courtship?
It is a period between when a Christian brother and a sister agree to marry each other till their wedding day. It is a period between ‘Yes I will do’ and ‘Yes I do’.
Things to note before going into courtship Psalm 11:3
1. God’s leading – Pro. 19:14, Rom. 8:14
2. Love – Make sure love develops
3. Prayer – Pray for the bone of your bone.
4. Maturity – Eccl 3:1, 5b (Physical, Social, Attraction, Emotional and Financial.

What courtship is not
1. Marriage – Hence, sex, kissing, hugging, fondling and caressing should be avoided.
2. Ordinary friendship – It must involve proposal and consent.
3. Broken courtship is not a divorce.
4. Wrong signals
5. It is not boyfriend/girlfriend.
6. It is not dating.
7. It is not a joint venture.
8. Not trial marriage/cohabitation

Why Courtship?
1. A time to lay a solid foundation Psalm 113
2. A time of knowing
3. A time of discovery
4. Time of examination
5. A time for prayer
6. A time for planning
7. A time of laying strong family alter
8. A time for goal setting
9. A time for goal harmonisation
10. A time of introduction
11. A time of adjustment
12. A time of decision
13. A time to disagree and agree without quarreling
14. A time of questions/answers

Types of courtship
1. Courtship with an unbeliever Joshua 23:10-13
2. With a divorcee Mal. 2:14 – 16
3. Secret courtship
4. Purposeless courtship
5. Open/pure courtship
6. Closed courtship
7. Turbulent courtship
8. Filthy courtship

Don’ts of courtship
1. Avoid secret relationship
2. No double dating
3. Don’t pretend
4. Don’t wear each other’s clothes
5. Don’t wear the same clothes
6. Sisters should not become cooks/laundress
7. Don’t cohabitate.
8. Don’t be untruthful
9. No sex
10. No joint account

How long should a courtship be?
1. Not less than 6 months
2. Not too long – Why?
• Can lead to sexual immorality
• Make you become less committed
• It is emotionally committed
• Evil friends can come in
• It can lead to a broken relationship
• It is too demanding
• It is costly

Warning signals during Christian courtship
1. Loss of peace
2. Lack of love and affection
3. Communication breakdown
4. Constant disagreement
5. Irreconcilable differences
6. Spiritual coldness
7. Indifferences
8. Absence of give and take
9. Pro.ocation
10. Bad character
11. Sharp doctrinal differences
12. Immaturity
13. Stinginess
14. Frequent disappointment
15. Disobedience to parents, pastor and leaders
16. Anger
17. Immoralities
18. No fear of God
19. Pride

Signs that a man will beat you after marriage
1. He beats you during courtship
2. Threatens to beat you in courtship
3. He fights anywhere
4. He is hard on you
5. He has no mentor
6. He abuses his mother
7. He has friends who beat their wives
8. He does not respect women
9. He drinks and uses drugs
10. He blames wives that were beaten
11. He is not born again
12. He has a faulty cultural belief system
13. His father beats his mother regularly

How to find the bone of your bone
Pro. 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Pro. 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Pro 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
1. Develop the right mindset
2. Know what you are looking for Phil.4:6, Gen.24:10, 2:18, Amos3:3, Gen.2:23
3. Seek help (man and divine) Pro. 23:2, Ps.32:8, John15:5
4. Make yourself findable. Gen.24:13
5. Make yourself visible
6. Free yourself spiritually
7. Make yourself attractive – Physical attraction, Spiritual attraction, Emotional attraction
8. Make yourself approachable *Emotionally sick Pro. 18:24, 22:24
9. Make yourself available – Physical, emotional, spiritual and relation
10. Build character Pro.21:9, 22:24-25

How ready are you for marriage?
Pro. 30:24-28 There be four things which are little upon the earth, but they are exceeding wise: The ants are a people not strong, yet they prepare their meat in the summer; The conies are but a feeble folk, yet make they their houses in the rocks; The locusts have no king, yet go they forth all of them by bands; The spider taketh hold with her hands, and is in kings’ palaces.

Why you must be ready to prepare for marriage
1. It is the wisest thing to do
2. Preparation is a prerequisite to good success
3. Preparation will determine divine visitation
4. Preparation will determine your appearance and continuity

Things to know
1. Know what is marriage
2. Know what is singleness
3. Know all about yourself
4. Know what the male and female gender is all about
5. You must be prepared

7 areas of preparation
1. Spiritual preparation
2. Emotional preparation
3. Mental preparation
4. Physical preparation
5. Financial preparation
6. Moral preparation
7. Social preparation

Who a child of God should marry?
1. Marry a born again child of God
2. Marry in the will of God Rom.8:14
3. Marry somebody that fears the Lord
4. Must be a single not divorced. Mal.2:14-16
5. Must be a somebody you can trust
6. Must be somebody with vision
7. Must be reliable or dependable
8. Must be prayerful and a lover of the Word of God
9. Must be somebody you know

People you must never marry
1. Sympathy
2. Sunday daraprim
3. Fire brigade
4. Celebration guys
5. Vulture guys – eat dead animals (sinners)
6. Slothful guys Pro. 19:15
7. Visionless guys Pro. 29:18
8. Fornicator guys John 10:10a
9. Molue guys – Uncultured or unprincipled
10. Amoeba guys – Unpredictable
11. Chameleon guys – Full of deceit
12. Sex hunter
13. Mummy’s boy – 1Cor.13:11
14. Alone guy – No friend Eccl.4:9
15. Contentious guys Pro. 21:9
16. Night crawlers
17. Bottle lovers Pro. 31:4
18. Stingo guys 1Tim.5:8
19. Desperado Pro. 7:25
20. A woman-man Pro. 29:3
21. Money hunter
22. The yes-sis Pro. 14:1
23. Sister-masculine Eph.5:22
24. Yes bother Pro. 20:29
25. Water minded Gen.49:4

Things to know about marriage
1. Marriage was instituted by God for companionship, procreation, protection from fornication and other vices.
2. It is for your good Gen. 2:18
3. Must not marry an unbeliever
4. Your pastor must be involved
5. You must secure the consent of your parent
6. It is till death do us part Mal.2:14-16
7. It is for mature people
8. Wives must submit to their husbands
9. Husbands must love their wives unconditionally
10. You must choose wisely
11. If one partner dies, the other is free to re-marry
12. You must seek the face of God before choosing

Delayed marriage
Pro. 13:12 Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.

Categories of delay
1. Self imposed delays as a result of our own negligence or invitation Eccl.10:8 …and whoso breaketh an hedge, a serpent shall bite him.
2. Circumstantial delays e.g. Joseph
3. Divine delays caused by God
4. Satanic delay (past lifestyle, indecision, academic pursuit, career, sickness/diseases, packaging and appearance, personal hygiene, bad attitude, bad habits, character flaws, parental influence, family conflict, financial limitation, physical stature, disability, unwise action, wrong association, lost opportunities, lack of boldness, insecurity, choosiness, lack of preparation, immaturity).
5. Spiritual marriages
6. Family curses
7. Delayed conversion
8. Divine delay (positive and negative)
9. Chains of relationship
10. Canopy ministry
11. Ignorance
12. Excessive focus on career
13. Body or mouth odour
14. Location
15. Marital misconception
16. Physical outlook
17. Too much closeness to guys
18. Soul-ties ‘I will only get married to a man like my father’
19. Fear
20. Domineering spirit
21. Evil standards
22. Broken relationship
23. Sickness
24. Denominational sentiments
25. Tribal sentiments
26. Dirty past
27. Disobedience to God 1Sam.15:22
28. Deception
29. Wrong association
30. Double life
31. Your look
32. Academic pursuit
33. Bad character
34. High bride price
35. Curses
36. Poverty
37. Evil covenant
38. Parental objection
39. Phobia for marriage
40. Spirit husband or wife

Effects of spirit spouses
1. Make you hate the opposite sex
2. Beautiful ladies look ugly to those interested in marrying them
3. Can make you to smell
4. Constant, broken courtship
5. Nightmares and sexual intercourse in the dream
6. Hatred for your spouse
7. Chronic gynecological problems
8. Frigidity and impotency

How to know when you are under their oppression
1. Constant intercourse in dreams
2. Eating constantly in the dream
3. Strange marks on your body after sleeping
4. Constant misplacement of properties
5. Fear of marriage, pregnancy and delivery
6. Moving objects in your body
7. Hatred for the opposite sex
8. Constant sadness
9. Strange voices

Living Proof Praying Women Int’l

You are welcome to Living Proof with Pastor Julie. This program is a reality talk program that houses and coordinates the activities of family/couples affair. Most activities of couples/family affair will now run under the umbrella of Living Proof with Pastor Julie.
Living proof with pastor Julie will is aimed at:
1. Providing the platform or forum where marital issues will be shared, aired & resolved.
2. Providing a platform for healing marital wounds through shared experiences. Here, live testimonies of peoples’ past and present experiences and how they were resolved are shared to ignite hope and revival in dying marriages.
3. Restoring lost love and reuniting divorced couples.
4. Conducting real time interviews with pastor’s wives and leaders in the ministry with the intent of learning in more practical terms how to build our homes.
5. Instilling and encouraging dress sense for women in ministry.
6. Empowering the singles to be more focused and result oriented and many more.

This Program runs under the platform of the Redeemed Christian Church of God
Venue: Yet to be concluded.

Living proof with Pastor Julie holds;
Every second Saturday of the month
Time 9am
Venue: Redeemed Christian Church of God, Great Grace Assembly, Garki 2, beside Access Bank
For counseling, prayers, healing, deliverance, and empowerment.


In over 30years of marriage, I have learnt and still do learn that there are simple things we as wives can do to always keep our husbands perpetually in love with us. I call them simple because these are things you wont need to spend a dim to do. You don’t need to overwork yourself to do them. Even if you do most of the chores at home, gainfully employed or engaged in business, consider these tips a routine exercise to keep your home and man. I want to agree with you you that sometimes, our husbands may appear difficult but i tell you they are mostly easy to please. Now, lets take a drive together.


Yes, you heard me right. LOADS OF SEX…I mean like lots and lots of sex. Sex is as an expression of your love and commitment to your husband and vice-versa sanctioned by God for the married. So, let your husband feel you in bed. Dont be too sanctimonious to express your sex life with your husband. In the mornings, in the evenings, over the weekend, during week days etc. There is no restriction to time or position as long as both of you flows. Give it to him as often as he wants it. I often advice, don’t be stereotyped. Sex is an expression so express it to the fullest you both agree to. There is a kind of bonding sex gives that nothing else can supply.

Now, understand that when you reject him over and over again – even if you have a legitimate excuse, such as exhaustion or busy with work and kids etc – he is going to start to think you don’t desire him in the way he does to you. He will feel slighted, and soon he will begin to get concerned about your marriage. He might even jump to the conclusion that you’re getting it elsewhere – or that he should. Sexless marriages rarely work, so do the deed as often as it comes knocking. Try it. You’ll like it.


Sex is one thing but affection is another. You can oblige him sex with no affection. That in itself is bad. What does your husband wants beyond sex? The romantic gestures of a loving wife. Show him affection – kisses, hugs, tender touching. He wants to know you love him and want to keep him close to you. The truth is that it’s not just women that want this kind of romantic affection, the men does too. When the ball rolls to your court, score your goal. You can be a professional within your home. You know what i mean.


We live in a body-obsessed world. Most women if not every woman wants you to tell her how beautiful she is even at old age. No woman would accept you telling her she looks old or fat for a compliment. Funny enough, our husbands need as much compliment as we do. Your husband does feel vulnerable about how his looks are changing year after year. He’s noticing gray hairs and skin shrink. In the midst of this, tell him how handsome he is, give him a boost of compliments. Tell him he’s still hot and you want him more than ever.

Go ahead and try these tips…You will find them helpful.

From your Pastor, mentor & coach
Julie Onovwiona


One of the most difficult aspects of personal finance is figuring out the best way to utilize or profitably spend hard earned money. During recession periods as this in Nigeria, it’s usually difficult to figure out how to save big on a small budget. But, the key to reducing your spending is to cut back a little in all areas of expenditure. It may take a little work in the beginning but sooner than later, you’ll find your financial stress will start to decrease once you’re able to save.

I give you 5 simple ways to trim your expenses.

1. Put any bonuses into savings.

I have had several occassions where i just notice some loosed change in my purse or clothes i used the previous day. Instead of pocketing that cash and potentially losing it a second time or using for something with no real value, pay yourself first by automatically depositing it into your savings account.

2. Make meals at home.

If you calculate how much you spend in buying meals outside your home probably in the office or else where, it will amaze you how much money you could have saved. I suggest you start out with cooking at least twice a week, if you eat out often, and slowly build up to three or four times a week. With time you will discover you have been able to mop up some reasonable funds for savings.

4. Set a shopping limit.

Make it a habit to avoid buying things on impulse. This a problem with many people. This is what i often tell people, if you find yourself wanting an expensive suit or London gowns etc you stumbled upon at the mall or supermarket, just wait a day or two and see if you’re still thinking about it. You will notice a decline in the desire to have that stuff. Get a list, set a limit as you go for shopping.

5. Cancel club memberships or entertainment bills.

Some of us have bills that are automatically reoccurring. We pay them every month, week etc. If you have a gym membership for instance, and probably you’ve always had it but never used it as often as you service it, then you may consider canceling it. Also, some of us have more than one cable TV and you service them every month. Its time to stop some bills and save. Eliminating the extra expenses you rarely use could make a significant difference in your budget.

From your Pastor, mentor & coach
Julie Onovwiona